In times of change and grief, chaplains offer presence, healing and hope

Chaplaincy is about creating a safe, non-judgmental space where people can navigate personal challenges and obstacles.

At every stage of life, especially during times of distress, crisis or uncertainty, many people turn to a chaplain for spiritual, emotional and, when requested, religious guidance. Even in stable times, many people find comfort in the presence of a trusted listener who offers companionship and the opportunity for reflection.

While many older adults thrive in the later stages of life, others find it more difficult. Chaplains can be a valuable source of support for seniors facing the challenges of aging and life transitions. For those who feel unfulfilled in retirement and are missing the sense of purpose and structure their careers provided, for example, spiritual guidance and wisdom can help them rediscover meaning. Further, the stress of managing health issues and the realities of aging can also feel overwhelming.

Support and compassionate insight can provide comfort and help seniors navigate these challenges.

Seniors who are homebound, in particular, may feel isolated and disconnected from the world. A visiting chaplain can provide a valuable connection to others, especially for those without access to their own spiritual leaders.

As we age, many experience great personal loss, such as the death of friends or a spouse, which can cause intense grief and loneliness. During these times of mourning and heartache, the presence of a kindhearted counselor can be a vital source of support, helping individuals cope with grief, process their emotions and begin to heal.

Chaplaincy is about creating a safe, non-judgmental space where people can navigate personal challenges and obstacles. Although their backgrounds are rooted in spiritual traditions, this form of care extends beyond religious boundaries. Supporting people from all different backgrounds is special and important. Some may request religious rituals, observances and discussions about their faith while others may find spirituality in reflection and conversation. They will help the individual in whatever way is most comfortable and meaningful to that person.

Chaplains have a very important role serving those at the end of life by providing compassionate, person-centered care that addresses individuals’ spiritual, emotional and other important needs. These visits often include deep conversations, reflections or music, or simply the warmth of companionship, listening and providing a comforting presence.

Family members whose loved ones are at the end of life also benefit from this compassionate support. Chaplains offer a calm, caring presence during this often unfamiliar and overwhelming time. Just as they do for the patient, they create a safe space for family members to have open conversations and share their fears, hopes and emotions. They help loved ones through grief, which can begin even before death, and continue to be there for them after their loved one has passed and they move through the journey of bereavement.

From the perspective of a chaplain, one of the most beautiful qualities of life is the way people relate and connect to each other. They approach each visit with empathy, respect and a sincere desire to help. Even if they have not personally experienced the challenges faced by the person they are visiting, their authenticity and genuine care about the other person and their situation will allow them to deeply connect. Sometimes, simply being present is all a person needs.

Respect is an integral part of chaplaincy and is the foundation of meaningful spiritual care. While we all have a unique personal journey, it is important to respect and acknowledge each other’s differences. These differences do not need to divide us, rather they can complement each other. Our strength is not only in our individual identity, but in how we relate to one another and work together. Diversity and respect for our differences is a virtue. Chaplaincy, like caregiving, is a way of reaching those that we are providing care for, but also helps us have a better understanding of ourselves. Through being good to others, we reach our true sense of self and fulfill our true nature and purpose.

As we enter the month when we will celebrate Lag B’Omer, we are reminded of the lesson from the story of Rabbi Akiva’s students that showing respect for one another is important. Through the teachings of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, we understand that — Sheves Achim Gam Yachad — we are stronger and better when we are united together. May we embrace this as a community and may we be an example of respect, understanding and unity. PJC

Rabbi Dovid Small is director of pastoral care at the Jewish Association on Aging.