‘Belated eulogy’ resonates
I was so touched by Toby Tabachnick’s article “Belated eulogy” (Feb. 5). She captured so perfectly how we feel about our actions when we’re young and the regret we feel so many years later. I have similar regret because I missed the maturity at the time to “do the right thing,” finding out that I couldn’t resolve my actions many years later in life. Thanks for sharing and trying to find a resolution. You’re not alone.
Make the effort to say ‘thank you’ while you still can
Thank you for the beautiful and very poignant article “Belated eulogy” that appeared in last week’s Jewish Chronicle. I really felt for that little girl … and for the regret of an important opportunity lost.
The piece resonated so much with me because I had experienced something similar. I began college with the longtime dream of becoming a teacher. During a freshman-year practicum that entailed working in a real classroom, however, I realized teaching was not for me. Hence, halfway through my freshman year, I suddenly had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I had always kind of liked writing, so I decided to take a creative writing class just for fun.
And that professor changed my life.
I thought about her off and on during my many years working as a writer, but it wasn’t until my first children’s book was under contract that I finally decided to get in touch and thank her. When I Googled her … I found her obituary. I ultimately managed to connect with her daughter and send her a note saying how much her mother had impacted my life. But I will always regret that I didn’t attempt to reach out years earlier.
I guess one good thing about being a writer is that you can sometimes make it right-er by putting your thoughts and appreciation into written words. I paid tribute to my professor in the acknowledgments in my book. You have done likewise for this lovely woman in the beautiful piece published in the Chronicle.
It is so important to make the time and expend the effort to say “thank you” while you still can. It is far better than living with regret — and depriving someone of knowing what an enormous difference they made to you.
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